Sunan Abu Dawood, Book of General Behavior (Kitab Al-Adab)

‘A’ISHA SAID:

A MAN ASKED PERMISSION TO SEE THE PROPHET ﷺ, AND HE SAID: HE IS A BAD SON OF THE TRIBE, OR: HE IS A BAD MEMBER OF THE TRIBE. HE THEN SAID : GIVE HIM PERMISSION. THEN WHEN HE ENTERED, HE SPOKE TO HIM LENIENTLY. ‘A’ISHAH ASKED : APOSTLE OF ALLAH! YOU SPOKE TO HIM LENIENTLY WHILE YOU SAID ABOUT HIM WHAT YOU SAID! HE REPLIED: THE ONE WHO WILL HAVE THE WORST POSITION IN ALLAH’S ESTIMATION ON THE DAY OF RESURRECTION WILL BE THE ONE WHOM PEOPLE LEFT ALONE FOR FEAR OF HIS RIBALDRY.

حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنِ ابْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتِ اسْتَأْذَنَ رَجُلٌ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ " بِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ " . أَوْ " بِئْسَ رَجُلُ الْعَشِيرَةِ " . ثُمَّ قَالَ " ائْذَنُوا لَهُ " . فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ أَلاَنَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ وَقَدْ قُلْتَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتَ . قَالَ " إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مَنْزِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ وَدَعَهُ - أَوْ تَرَكَهُ - النَّاسُ لاِتِّقَاءِ فُحْشِهِ " .

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:

A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and the Prophet ﷺ said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed , I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aisha! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.

حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، رضى الله عنها أَنَّ رَجُلاً، اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ " بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ " . فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطَ إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَكَلَّمَهُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَمَّا اسْتَأْذَنَ قُلْتَ " بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ " . فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطْتَ إِلَيْهِ . فَقَالَ " يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لاَ يُحِبُّ الْفَاحِشَ الْمُتَفَحِّشَ " .

THE TRADITION MENTIONED ABOVE HAS BEEN TRANSMITTED BY ‘A’ISHAH THROUGH A DIFFERENT CHAIN OF NARRATORS. THIS VERSION HAS:

THE PROPHET ﷺ SAID: ‘A’ISHAH! THERE ARE SOME BAD PEOPLE WHO ARE RESPECTED FOR FEAR OF THEIR TONGUES.

حَدَّثَنَا عَبَّاسٌ الْعَنْبَرِيُّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَسْوَدُ بْنُ عَامِرٍ، حَدَّثَنَا شَرِيكٌ، عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ، عَنْ مُجَاهِدٍ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، فِي هَذِهِ الْقِصَّةِ قَالَتْ فَقَالَ تَعْنِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ
" يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ مِنْ شِرَارِ النَّاسِ الَّذِينَ يُكْرَمُونَ اتِّقَاءَ أَلْسِنَتِهِمْ " .

Narrated Anas ibn Malik:

I never said that when any man brought his mouth to the ear of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and he withdrew his head until the man himself withdrew his head, and I never saw that when any man took him by his hand and he withdrew his hand, until the man himself withdrew his hand.

حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو قَطَنٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا مُبَارَكٌ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ، قَالَ مَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً الْتَقَمَ أُذُنَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَيُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ وَمَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً أَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ فَتَرَكَ يَدَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يَدَعُ يَدَهُ .

‘ABD ALLAH B. ‘UMAR SAID:

THE PROPHET ﷺ PASSED BY A MAN OF THE ANSAR WHEN HE WAS GIVING HIS BROTHER A WARNING AGAINST MODESTY. THE APOSTLE OF ALLAH ﷺ SAID : LEAVE HIM ALONE, FOR MODESTY IS A PART OF FAITH.

حَدَّثَنَا الْقَعْنَبِيُّ، عَنْ مَالِكٍ، عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ، عَنْ سَالِمِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ مَرَّ عَلَى رَجُلٍ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ وَهُوَ يَعِظُ أَخَاهُ فِي الْحَيَاءِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ
" دَعْهُ فَإِنَّ الْحَيَاءَ مِنَ الإِيمَانِ " .

ABU QATADAH SAID:

WE WERE SITTING WITH ‘IMRAN B. HUSSAIN AND BUSHAIR B. KA’B WAS ALSO THERE. ‘IMRAN B. HUSSAIN REPORTED THE APOSTLE OF ALLAH ﷺ AS SAYING: MODESTY IS A GOOD ALTOGETHER, OR HE SAID: MODESTY IS ALTOGETHER GOOD. BUSHAIR B. KA’B SAID : WE FIND IN SOME BOOKS THAT THERE IS A MODESTY WHICH PRODUCES PEACE AND DIGNIFIED BEARING, AND THERE IS A MODESTY WHICH PRODUCES WEAKNESS. ‘IMRAN B. HUSSAIN REPEATED THE SAME WORDS. SO ‘IMRAN BECAME ANGRY SO MUCH SO THAT HIS EYES BECAME RED, AND HE SAID : DON’T YOU SEE THAT I AM TRANSMITTING A TRADITION FROM THE APOSTLE OF ALLAH ﷺ AND YOU ARE MENTIONING SOMETHING FROM YOUR BOOKS? HE (QATADAH) SAID : WE SAID : ABU NUJAID, IT IS SUFFICIENT.

حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ، عَنْ إِسْحَاقَ بْنِ سُوَيْدٍ، عَنْ أَبِي قَتَادَةَ، قَالَ كُنَّا مَعَ عِمْرَانَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ وَثَمَّ بُشَيْرُ بْنُ كَعْبٍ فَحَدَّثَ عِمْرَانُ بْنُ حُصَيْنٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ " الْحَيَاءُ خَيْرٌ كُلُّهُ " . أَوْ قَالَ " الْحَيَاءُ كُلُّهُ خَيْرٌ " . فَقَالَ بُشَيْرُ بْنُ كَعْبٍ إِنَّا نَجِدُ فِي بَعْضِ الْكُتُبِ أَنَّ مِنْهُ سَكِينَةً وَوَقَارًا وَمِنْهُ ضَعْفًا . فَأَعَادَ عِمْرَانُ الْحَدِيثَ وَأَعَادَ بُشَيْرٌ الْكَلاَمَ قَالَ فَغَضِبَ عِمْرَانُ حَتَّى احْمَرَّتْ عَيْنَاهُ وَقَالَ أَلاَ أَرَانِي أُحَدِّثُكَ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَتُحَدِّثُنِي عَنْ كُتُبِكَ . قَالَ قُلْنَا يَا أَبَا نُجَيْدٍ إِيهٍ إِيهٍ .

ABU MASUD REPORTED THE APOSTLE OF ALLAH ﷺ AS SAYING:

ONE OF THE THINGS PEOPLE HAVE LEARNT FROM THE WORDS OF THE EARLIEST PROPHECY IS : IF YOU HAVE NO SHAME, DO WHAT YOU LIKE.

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ مَنْصُورٍ، عَنْ رِبْعِيِّ بْنِ حِرَاشٍ، عَنْ أَبِي مَسْعُودٍ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ
" إِنَّ مِمَّا أَدْرَكَ النَّاسُ مِنْ كَلاَمِ النُّبُوَّةِ الأُولَى إِذَا لَمْ تَسْتَحِ فَافْعَلْ مَا شِئْتَ " .

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin:

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: By his good character a believer will attain the degree of one who prays during the night and fasts during the day.

حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، حَدَّثَنَا يَعْقُوبُ، - يَعْنِي الإِسْكَنْدَرَانِيَّ - عَنْ عَمْرٍو، عَنِ الْمُطَّلِبِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، رَحِمَهَا اللَّهُ قَالَتْ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ
" إِنَّ الْمُؤْمِنَ لَيُدْرِكُ بِحُسْنِ خُلُقِهِ دَرَجَةَ الصَّائِمِ الْقَائِمِ " .

Narrated AbudDarda':

The Prophet ﷺ said: There is nothing heavier than good character put in the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection.

Abu al-Walid said: I heard 'Ata al-Kaikharani say: Abu Dawud said: His name is 'Ata b. Ya'qub. He is the maternal uncle of Ibrahim b. Nafi'. He is called Kaikharani or Kukharani.

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الْوَلِيدِ الطَّيَالِسِيُّ، وَحَفْصُ بْنُ عُمَرَ، قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا ح، وَحَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ كَثِيرٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ بْنِ أَبِي بَزَّةَ، عَنْ عَطَاءٍ الْكَيْخَارَانِيِّ، عَنْ أُمِّ الدَّرْدَاءِ، عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ
" مَا مِنْ شَىْءٍ أَثْقَلُ فِي الْمِيزَانِ مِنْ حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ " . قَالَ أَبُو الْوَلِيدِ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ عَطَاءً الْكَيْخَارَانِيَّ . قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُدَ وَهُوَ عَطَاءُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ وَهُوَ خَالُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنِ نَافِعٍ يُقَالُ كَيْخَارَانِيٌّ وَكَوْخَارَانِيٌّ .

Narrated Abu Umamah:

The Prophet ﷺ said: I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who gives up arguing even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of Paradise for a man who made his character good.

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عُثْمَانَ الدِّمَشْقِيُّ أَبُو الْجَمَاهِرِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو كَعْبٍ، أَيُّوبُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ السَّعْدِيُّ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَبِيبٍ الْمُحَارِبِيُّ، عَنْ أَبِي أُمَامَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ
" أَنَا زَعِيمٌ بِبَيْتٍ فِي رَبَضِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْمِرَاءَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مُحِقًّا وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي وَسَطِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْكَذِبَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مَازِحًا وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ حَسَّنَ خُلُقَهُ " .